My father was an alcoholic and was very verbally abusive. When she drank he would loose his temper with us and hit us with a belt. We would always have to walk on egg shells when he was drinking and stay in our bedrooms. he was very cruel to my mom and there has been many times he was physical to her. Towards the end of my fathers life I asked him why he did that to us. Many of the events he could not recall. He never thought he really hurt us and did not think he had a drinking problem. He did apologize for what he did and said he tried to do the best for us. My father never had a father and his mother was never around. I honestly believe my father never knew how to be a parent because he did not have any good role models as parents. When he became a grandpa, he finally understood how to love a child unconditional and how to communicate in a positive loving one. My sons loved their grandpa and I finally was able to let the pain and anger go. All my siblings are very close but we are very aware that our dad was an alcoholic and we have a higher risk at becoming one. Some of my siblings have had to fight that demon.
In Cambodia the Organization that helps family in need against child abuse is called Phare Ponleu Selpax. This organizations helps over 1500 children. Here are some facts about the organization and who they help. No matter where you live or your race, economic status child abuse has no has no discrimination!!!!
Organization: Phare Ponleu Selpak Project:Family oriented improvement Location: Battambang, Cambodia Target group:Families at risk, , Street children, Children in alternative care
Phare Ponleu Selpak offers a program to meet the needs of vulnerable children which includes family support and reintegration, educational programs, arts and culture. The program reaches about 1 500 children from families affected by alcoholism, migration, violence and abuse, orphans, abandoned children, domestic or farming slaves, children victims of trafficking and street children( www,phareps.org).
I thank you for begin so open because a lot people find it difficult to share their personal life. I’m glad that you forgave your father because not forgiving him could have hurt you in so many ways. Holding grudges against people takes a toll on a person’s life and they don’t even realize it. Your post could make someone forgive their father or mother for hurting them. It’s so many children who are abuse everyday and grows up feeling like it’s their fault they were hurt.
I thank you for begin so open because a lot people find it difficult to share their personal life. I’m glad that you forgave your father because not forgiving him could have hurt you in so many ways. Holding grudges against people takes a toll on a person’s life and they don’t even realize it. Your post could make someone forgive their father or mother for hurting them. It’s so many children who are abuse everyday and grows up feeling like it’s their fault they were hurt.
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